Criminal Justice Committee 21 May 2025
It is a privilege for me to amplify the voices of ASSIST victims and victims on the SafeLives authentic voice panel in relation to this issue.
I would like to read out some quotes that, I hope, amplify the impact of this tactic of control:
“I have been assaulted, raped and strangled. All of these were terrifying, but it’s the strangulation that I feared I would not survive.”
“He says he knows when to stop, but what if the next time he doesn’t?”
“I was breastfeeding my six-week-old baby. I was scared that my weight on the baby would suffocate him.”
“I wet myself. I thought I was going to die.”
“He strangled me and my thyroid went bad. I still have issues with my thyroid.”
“I would take medication to get to sleep and escape the abuse. I would wake up with bruises on my body and marks on my neck.”
“The first time it happened, I was driving home from my mum’s funeral. I managed to stop the car. Another time, he straddled me on the bed, knees on either side. He had me at arm’s length. I couldn’t stop it.”